be grateful

Saw this on mm’s fb. So so true. I have a certain family member who is never grateful and forever complains about the lack of money, property, car, holiday etc even though none of the complaints hold water (averaging 1-2 long trips and 3-4 short trips a year is not “no holiday”).

gratitudediaries

The video is, I think, associated with the author who wrote the gratitude diaries who:

spends a year living gratefully and transforms her marriage, family life, work and health

In an adweek article, she writes about how social media can help promote gratitude. Even though most people tend to dwell on negatives, most social media posts fall into the category of looking on the bright side:

if it’s been raining every day on your beach vacation, you take a selfie snuggled inside with a glass of wine and a good book and post something like, “Ahh, grateful for peace and relaxation!”

Perhaps. There are some people who only post miserable stuff, or vague “I’m having a bad day, don’t ask” type of attention seeking posts. In general, Ms Kaplan is probably right. By trying to promote cheerfulness on social media, our perspective changes.

Personally I find I have to consciously tell myself to be positive and grateful. I don’t go round complaining that I don’t have money or success or a perfect body. I don’t need to keep a gratitude diary to konw that I live a comfortable life, am left alone most of the time and the recent health issue is easily addressed. In this way, I may consider myself a better person than my family member, because I have self-awareness. For that, I’m grateful.